Ok, so I tried changing two lines in the eqemu_config.xml
the first in the world section under "only modify these if you need to..."
so now intead of:
127.0.0.1 -server
127.0.0.1 -local
I have
(my ip) -server
127.0.0.1 - local
the other change is in loginserver
was <host> 127.0.0.1
now is <host> (my ip)
after making this change, when I try to connect, it says connecting to server, please wait... then it just stays hung there indefinitely.
so, Im going to try changing the mini/mini to a different (unique) ip and see what happens.