[GRUMPY]

This is what I am presently using for a couple friends to log in from their homes. As Maze suggested, check open ports.

<?xml version="1.0"?>
<server>
	<world>
		<shortname>servername</shortname>
		<longname>Server Name</longname>

		<!-- Only specify these two if you really think you need to.  (read: You don't) -->
		<address>xx.xx.xx.xx</address> <!-- EXTERNAL IP -->
		<localaddress>127.0.0.1</localaddress>

		<!-- Loginserver information.  Defaults shown -->

		<loginserver>
			<host>127.0.0.1</host>
			<port>5999</port>
			<account>*****</account>
			<password>*****</password>
		</loginserver>

		<!-- Server status.  Default is unlocked -->
		<!-- <locked/> -->
		<!-- <unlocked/> -->

		<!-- Sets the ip/port for the tcp connections.  Both zones and console (if enabled).  Defaults are shown -->
		<tcp ip="127.0.0.1" port="9000" telnet="disable"/>

		<!-- Sets the shared key used by zone/launcher to connect to world -->
		<key>somestupidstringofcharacters</key>

		<!-- Enable and set the port for the HTTP service.  Defaults are shown -->
		<http port="9080" enabled="false" mimefile="mime.types" />
	</world>

	<!-- Chatserver (channels) information.  Defaults shown -->
	<chatserver>
		<host>127.0.0.1</host>
		<port>7778</port>
	</chatserver>

	<!-- Mailserver (in-game mail) information.  Defaults shown -->
	<mailserver>
		<host>127.0.0.1</host>
		<port>7778</port>
	</mailserver>

	<zones>
		<defaultstatus>0</defaultstatus>

		<!-- Sets port range for world to use to auto configure zones -->
		<ports low="7000" high="7500"/>
	</zones>

	<!-- Database configuration, replaces db.ini.  Defaults shown -->
	<database>
		<host>127.0.0.1</host>
		<port>3306</port>
		<username>*****</username>
		<password>******</password>
		<db>peq***whatever</db>
	</database>

	<qsdatabase>
		<host>127.0.0.1</host>
		<port>3306</port>
		<username>*****</username>
		<password>******</password>
		<db>peq***whatever</db>
	</qsdatabase>

	<!-- Launcher Configuration -->
	<launcher>
		<!-- <logprefix>zone-</logprefix> -->
		<!-- <logsuffix>.log</logsuffix> -->
		<!-- <exe>zone.exe or ./zone</exe> -->
		<!-- <timers restart="10000" reterminate="10000"> -->
	</launcher>

	<!-- File locations.  Defaults shown -->
	<files>
		<!-- <spells>spells_us.txt</spells> -->
		<!-- <opcodes>opcodes.conf</opcodes> -->
		<!-- <logsettings>log.ini</logsettings> -->
		<!-- <eqtime>eqtime.cfg</eqtime> -->
		<!-- <plugin.pl>plugin.pl</plugin.pl> -->
	</files>
	<!-- Directory locations.  Defaults shown -->
	<directories>
		<!-- <maps>maps/</maps> -->
		<!-- <quests>quests/</quests> -->
		<!-- <plugins>plugins/</plugins> -->
		<!-- <lua_modules>lua_modules/</lua_modules> -->
		<!-- <patches>./</patches> -->
		<!-- <shared_memory>shared/</shared_memory> -->
		<!-- <logs>logs/</logs> -->
	</directories>
</server>

In the login.ini (notice the "local_network = 127.0.0.") leaving the period at end. This is what I use.

[database]
host = 127.0.0.1
port = 3306
db = peq**whatever
user = ****
password = *****
subsystem = MySQL

[options]
unregistered_allowed = TRUE
reject_duplicate_servers = FALSE
trace = TRUE
world_trace = FALSE
dump_packets_in = FALSE
dump_packets_out = FALSE
listen_port = 5999
local_network = 127.0.0.
auto_create_accounts = TRUE

[security]
plugin = EQEmuAuthCrypto
mode = 5

[Titanium]
port = 5998
opcodes = login_opcodes.conf

[SoD]
port = 5999
opcodes = login_opcodes_sod.conf

[schema]
account_table = tblLoginServerAccounts
world_registration_table = tblWorldServerRegistration
world_admin_registration_table = tblServerAdminRegistration
world_server_type_table = tblServerListType