Alright took me a long time to figure it out... partially because the client I used is named after a database I do use, and I used a different database.
First. In the EQEMUSERVER folder.
Update:
login.ini
- I had to update my db to be accurate.
I had to update my pw to be accurate.
I then changed the local_network to my IP address
I then edited the eqemu_config.json
Only have to update under loginserver2 to your IP (which you did).
I then updated my client to point to:
Host:XXX.XX.X.X:5999.
Now the part I had an issue with was the client already had logins from my account so I had to clear that info... and it worked. (Prior to clearing the data the server showed as UP... but it gave me errors when connecting. The log basically pointed out that the account had status of 0 and 255.