Setup your EQemu DB and get that working. Setup a port to forward from your router and windows firewall may additionally need it manually setup as well. Use your EQemu DB name, DB user, and DB pass. Use your IP with a port you've setup for port forwarding in your router config.
Go here to find your IP use that with your port.
http://www.whatismyip.com/
For example if your IP was 72.77.32.219 and your port was 6666 it would look like "72.77.32.219:6666" w/o the parentheses.