If you use the eqemu_server.pl file again it has options to check that all updates are done. Can also set up bots here and that. When you start the server it should reference this file for updating.
Not sure on error with login account, it seems like the table or a column is missing. Also, same file there is an option to create login server.
http://www.eqemulator.org/forums/showthread.php?t=42232
In this thread I had to make one myself to figure out the process. Be sure to read Uleats comment regarding 5998 or 5999 at the end based on client you use. The OP posted the link regarding how to get the IP and that as well.