ok the terminal gives me this

bash: rpm: command not found


so if you can help plz im very new to debian linux

or how do i install navicat on my debian linux box

See previous statement re: Windows.

my windows version is debian xwindows and im new to linux hehe

Navicat for Linux can be downloaded from their website at http://www.navicat.com/. I do honestly think you'd be better off going back to Windows (Microsoft Windows, not X Windows (X)).

Why did you choose Linux anyway? Seems to me that you need something a little easier to use. Learning how to admin a Linux box seems a bit out of the scope of the EQEmulator project, and given the exposed nature of it, you're probably going to end up hurting yourself in the long run.

LOL because i like the Challenge

Nearest I can tell, it's not you that's been challenged thus far. :)

Also, Navicat for Linux just runs in Wine, so I dunno if I'd count on that to get the job done or not.

This is sort of like jumping in the deep end of the pool, but not knowing how to swim - now you're in the water (drowning), asking someone how swimming is done.
If you want to learn Linux, that's fine - Linux is something good to learn, especially if you don't have a lot of money (like me!). You have to learn the new OS first - you need to learn what all these things mean such as 'rpm', 'script', etc. You have to get accustomed and familiar with Linux first.
EqEmu is not going do install and run like it does in windows - In Linux, it's a learning trip. You'll have to Google a lot because eventually people will start avoiding you at the forums with your 'Linux-elementary' questions. I still search forums/Google most everything, rather than start bothering everyone in the forums with questions that can easily be found.
Cavedude has a nice installer for windows, you should try it.

Linux servers are superior to windows. The fact that player ghosting doesn't exist on Linux, but does on Windows is enough for any serious admin to try it.

But, Linux certainly isn't for the non-technical. It can be very complex and one minor thing can cause hours of headache.

You don't need to install mysql admininstrator or anything. As long as you follow the wiki, you can get a server running with minimal issues. Your current problem appears to be with your mysql account that you are using for the emulator. Or possibly with the access for that account in your my.cnf file.

Once you fix that, you should be good to go. You are 99% of the way done now and just need that final thing to get it working.

But, if you don't have a separate windows PC that you can use for editing your database, you are going to have a much harder time. It can all be done from the Linux PC, but you can't run any of GeorgeS tools, or the spell editors. All you can run are PHP tools (which are very limited) and Navicat or you have to edit your database manually in mysql command line. I wasn't even able to get Navicat working on my Linux box at all, and I worked on it for a while. Though, I do have it running on my windows PC and able to connect to my Linux server to manage my database.

If you only have 1 PC to devote to this, you would be better off just using Windows. But, if you do have a spare PC you can run windows on to manage your database, then by all means, keep trying to get Linux working. You are so close and once you have it running, there isn't much more to it. Try googling your problems. You can find alot that way. Between that, the wikis and posts here, I got mine running with minimal help.