I used to box full groups on live and played solo with a few specific boxers as well. The only drawback I had was that when we had a "groove" going they got tired and had to log lol. Let me tell ya, that sucked being all hyped up and no where to go.

EQ Blue balls? lol sry if that was bad but it fits.

I do tend to agree with the sentiment here on both sides. But realistically speaking the populations on the Emu as a whole makes it rough to have full on groups 24/7 let alone big raids on demand. So I welcome seeing boxers.

I care more about server stability and lack of lag more than the type of population and how they play (as long as its not outright harmfull to others)

OP if you were to design a server with your specs in mind, I would play on it if it was stable. But I think that is the only real way you will find it.

I think i found one its Shards of Dalaya ;)

http://shardsofdalaya.com/

No multi-boxing - main thing i wanted to see.
65 lvl cap - sounds ok.
custom - wish to be not custom, but well it can be.

SoD is a good server, but doesn't support the UF client you have. You will need to get some custom client version files to play there. Though, I think they have a patch that updates the required files so your client might work there. They have been working to update their server to be compatible with newer clients like EQEmu is, but they split off of EQEmu so long ago that it is a long on-going process and I think they still have a long way to go. The client version they use has a desynch issue that disconnects you every hour or so, which is something you will need to deal with if playing there. Just an FYI.

Also, you can 2 box on Sod.