Monk sashs
 

i'v tried to do the monk sash/headbands quest and they tell me they want a "more trusted member".

Sounds like you need to up your faction. Is this on PEQ? You should post over there if you have a problem with the quest.

we are using PEQ but your soposta be able to get the white training thing right away without raising faction

There is a faction check on PEQ. This is based off of Allakhazam: http://everquest.allakhazam.com/db/quest.html?quest=588

i got it figured out, for some reason factions are'nt given out proporly when your first make a character