You will get a lot of people say this or that Server is better, but the truth is you really need to check them all out yourself before commiting to a Server.
my Server has spawns up to OOW.
we have a lot of spawns taken from live that look exactly like live.
plus we have 8x experiance gains.
http://spacetrader.no-ip.info/eq/zones.php
the low population Servers <LPS> are ALL different and have weak and strong points.
my server is geared twards playing solo and I setup most of the boss mobs so that they can be took out by one person if he is smart.
but I have seen a few grouped people play that say it's very challengeing also for groups.
This about the 100th post I 've seen from people asking this question and
there really is no Best Server. if you like to be around a lot of people PEQ is you best bet but if you want custom content, then shop around a bit.