I am having a similar issue, I try to connect to my server from another computer on my network and it will not connect.
Could you post what you now have your config ip's set at?
<!--<address>my server IP</address>-->
<!--<localaddress>192.168.10.xx8</localaddress>-->
This is what mine is set at now and is not working. Server shows up but cannot connect to it. Should 'my server IP' be set to an actual address?
Anyone have any idea?