You are replying to an old thread. You should be using this guide to get connected to play:
http://www.eqemulator.net/wiki/wikka...akka=PlayGuide
If you are still having an issue, then you should make a new post for it. Sometimes the server list won't show up but if you exit and login again, it will work. If it isn't ever working, then you are probably running the wrong version of EQ or have ports being blocked by a firewall or proxy.