Try this:
http://www.eqemulator.net/wiki/wikka...akka=PlayGuide
And if that doesn't work, we are going to need MUCH more details about the issue you are having. The more info you can give, the better. Describe what you have done so far, what client you are using, what operating system and the exact steps you are taking to connect and where you are failing at and what error message you get if any.
Also, the FAQ in my sig might have good info to help you.