This is what you want it set to:
Code:
[LoginServer]
Host=projecteq.net:5999
Try using it on your SoF install and if it works there, then it should work for SoD as well. If it still doesn't work on SoD, then maybe you patched SoD by mistake after you downloaded it from Steam.
Make sure you use the exact text I have in that code box above though. All of the other examples you have tried so far have not been exactly accurate. Also, make sure that the shortcut you created is for the eqgame.exe not the everquest.exe file.