[Derision]

The client is hardcoded to connect to world on udp port 9000. This is the section in eqemu_config.xml that specifies your world address:

        <world>
                <address>yourserver.ip.address.or.dns.name</address>-->
                <localaddress>192.168.1.100</localaddress>-->
                <loginserver>
                      <host>localhost</host>
                      <port>5998</port>
                      <account>account</account>
                      <password>password</password>
                </loginserver>
                <key>Some Long Random String</key>

                <shortname>BTG3</shortname>
                <longname>ZZZ BWG2 Private</longname>
                <http port="9080" enabled="true" mimefile="mime.types" />
        </world>

I use the latest version of EQEmuloginserver from the source code SVN, but I don't think I have changed that config section from when I used minilogin for my private server.