I tried recompiling the binaries and I ended up with the same problem. I then started reading other connection issue posts and I read this again
http://www.eqemulator.org/forums/showthread.php?t=32753
The first time I read that post I didn't think anything about it but today it hit me that is the same error I encountered on my second computer. I sourced that sql into my database and it seems to have fixed the connection problem......while that is good news I am not gonna draw any definitive conclusions this time I am just going to wait and see if it keeps working over the next few days.