My only suggestion is to open up wireshark (
http://www.wireshark.org/download.html) and run a capture when you attempt to connect - something is fishy. We cannot really get a good idea of what is going on with your connections though with the kind of information we have here.
Typically if your eqhost.txt is set right and you cannot even get to the login server, tells me you are typing your pass wrong (if it says bad pass), if its timing out, you are being blocked, perhaps a firewall against a specific port?