http://www.eqemulator.org/forums/showthread.php?t=32980
I used this. You have to use Cmake to compile prior to using C++, which it does not list. I imagine the changes for LAN vs Public are small. Could always just make it on the public server and lock it so no one but people you want can connect. Requires internet, but may be an easy fix for now.
I would use Underfoot client at least. Titanium has a lot of restrictions. Since you are using 64bit, use pearl 5.14.
Please, any one feel free to correct me if any of this is wrong.
Have fun! - Belated congrats on the sex! (oh, and baby too, I guess)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o 