Yeah, I'm doing some edits but I may need to sit down and re-write the tutorial.
For the time being, your shared_memory issue is resolved by going into your eqemu dir and typing "mkdir shared", then run "./shared_memory". it should show "Loading SPells, Loading Items, etc" and once that's done, it'll fix your "[Error] Error Loading Items: EQEmu Exception (Shared Memory) " issue.
The bind one i'm not so sure about. uleat may chime in?
Looks like it's hitting the point I will have to sit down and walk through the whole process again. I've been thinking about making this, though:
https://github.com/Xackery/peqrepack
Has a lot of ways to go and i'm running my server now, so a bit tougher to keep up to date.
Regardless, I tried to update my tutorial with your notes, since they all seemed legitimate.