It almost looks like you're missing 2 entries from your eqemu_config.xml file.
What I use for my 'localhost' server:
Code:
<address>127.0.0.1</address>
<localaddress>127.0.0.1</localaddress>
That's below the long/short name entries.
I don't know enough about the configuration system to know if that's an issue here. What you're using works for 'standard' installs - except when there's a
port issue.
It really does sound like a port-blocking issue on a local firewall.