Mkay this is exactly what I did.
1)Got the patch and patcher
2) Went to readme and followed the steps listed there such as
a)Changing the eqhost.txt to what the readme says and saving it.
3) I use the patchme method to get into the game by going to Run and entering what it says in the readme.
4) This takes me to full screen agree decline.
5) I agree
6) I enter into the game and go under Connect
7) There I enter my login/station name, PhatAlbert, and my PW
I get the message that I have written in previous posts.
And yes the Everquest directory does have an icon, and within it are all my files for Eq are located within, including my eqhost.txt (which is changed to what the readme says)