with the 2 issues you have posted your better off just playing EQEMU not running a server.

this is the second paragraph of the running your own server guide.

To run your own server, you must have a compiler and be somewhat familiar with computers. If you are not computer saavy, it's best not to run your own server - you have to know a fair bit of what you are doing and have the ability to resolve most problems on your own.