that happens to me sometimes i think this is happened because of the server host's connection to the internet maybe there connection is dial-up im not sure.
what are you running for a windows if you are running windows ex: win XP win 98
because that could also have an affect on your gameplay and how much memory does your computer have i know that i crashed alot when i had 256 mb of memory if none of this helped you at all sear for it on eqemu search
http://www.everquestserver.com/forums/search.php
~darkscythe~