I will never get tired of refering this for my own sheer stupidity, and lack of socialism. I see where you want to run a server for yourself and no one else.
My Setup
Personal Server
This is what i did to run a completely local server with no strings attached. Works great for me, sorta, missing a couple things that the big servers on eqemu login have like most of the current bugs worked out. I have found a solution to the being alone part. I start up two characters and talk to my self
Good luck which ever method you choose to follow, both allow you to run the greatest program the world has ever seen, next to PONG of course!