Some peole can be kind of rude... Don't worry about it.
If you know the last time you patched, you can figure out which server you can play on. I don't know the dates off the top of my head, but it shouldn't be too hard to find with a little searching. If you don't know, you'll probably only be able to play on the 5.7(DR4) servers. I believe that's the version that's caught up to live. Unfortunately, there are a lot of bugs that need to be worked out.
If you'd like, you can check out the Winter's Roar forum at
Winter's Roar. I think that if you follow the guide on how to play there, you could probably get on. It's actually a really good server, very customized.
Well, good luck
