you should have a cgf folder in your EQEmu folder and all the cgf files should be in there (not all in the emu dir itself). other than that, it doesnt need cgf files (you will see a purple sky and unlimited clipping plane, which isint all bad hehe).
for the crashes.... do you have more than one zone window open? if you try to zone without a zoneserver sleeping you will get booted.
btw, are you the Diae from veeshan? i used to know a Diae (rogue i think).
....[edit: opps, the rogue i used to know was Fiae. but i also remember the wood elf ranger Diae
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