It sounds like your server has not connected to minilogin. Post your LoginServer.ini and the output of minilogin.exe and world.exe.
Once your world.exe has booted, if you switch to the minilogin window and press the 'L' key, it should list your server, e.g.
Code:
C:\eqemu\minilogin>minilogin
LoginServer.ini read.
Server mode: Standalone
Login server listening on port:5994
World List:
============================
ID: 1, Name: [0.6.0-DR1] Derision's [Private] Server, Local, IP: 192.168.1.100:4
1029, Status: -2, AccID: 0
============================
Does your server show up if you do that ?