I ended up not using any special login program at all. I set my eqhost.txt to: Host=eqemulator.net:5998 and then in my server folder I edited my eqemu_config.xml file so the login section looks like:
<loginserver>
<host>eqemulator.net</host>
<port>5998</port>
<account></account>
<password></password>
</loginserver>
Now you would log in using the account(s) you made on this website. Minilogin was a pain for me and I could not get the other login type to work. But this one is good. Just remember that this makes your server public so you will probably want to lock it and/or control who gets on it, unless you want it to be public of course.