Yes, there are tons of servers...not just one. Legit(like live), non-legit(commands to cheat, hehe), and semi-legit(summoning items, but leveling)
You'd do all the spawns yourself...your server...you do the shit on it.
Using the guide, if you're decently adept using a computer(and following directions), it will be.
Some maps are in the game now, like certain zones, in the game press backspace. There may be a map of that certain zone, if not...there are maps downloadable, and printable.
www.eqatlas.com for the printable ones
www.eqtoolbox.com for downloadable ones
Yes, you control your server, you can bring it down, lock it, edit w/e and bring it back up.
If you have no knowledge of EQ period, i.e. lore etc, I pray for you. Best damn game every made, but there's alot to it.