I don't know if you want to go this route, but it is working GREAT for me.
I'm in no way affilliated with this company in any shape or form...
I use a product called Hamachi. It lets you run your network as a peer to peer over the lan via encrypted VPN. You do not need to have a static IP address from your ISP for this. The url is
http://www.hamachi.cc. When you set it up, everyone gets their own static IP address. You create a network for all you want to join it. Change your LOCAL IP's in your server setup to the Hamachi IP's and your all good. Only those who know your network name and password can get on, once you've created their account on the Emulator using their Hamachi address. There is a FREE version, which I am using as well and have had no problems yet. They have a Windows Version (what I am using) and a Linux Version (I haven't tested this one).
The users will put in their eqhost file your Servers Hamachi address with the standard minilogin port of 5999. You only need LoginServer.ini and the XML file. No need for config or db ini's. Keep Log.ini as well, that's read by World.exe, even if it has no entries.
Because it's a VPN tunnel, you don't need to open ports on your router either. At least I haven't had to. I already had standard e-mail, http and ftp ports opened to the server, but don't think you need even those.