See this thread it helped me alot
http://www.eqemulator.net/forums/showthread.php?t=20772
you will also have to go into the accounts in your database to create the accounts for yourself and your kids by entering the name, password and IP of their PC's which can be obtained by going to control panel, then network connections and right clicking on Local Area Connection. Choose Status and then click on the support tab. You will see the computers IP address there.
Also when in the accounts section you will need to set your status at 250 to be GM and set the kids accounts as 0 for normal user. Hope this helps.
The only problem I have atm is that if one of my chars dies then sometimes it will default to the other account that is online. Cant find a way around that atm but Im guessing its also a minilgin issue.