Some peole can be kind of rude... Don't worry about it.  
If you know the last time you patched, you can figure out which server you can play on.  I don't know the dates off the top of my  head, but it shouldn't be too hard to find with a little searching.  If you don't know, you'll probably only be able to play on the 5.7(DR4) servers.  I believe that's the version that's caught up to live.  Unfortunately, there are a lot of bugs that need to be worked out.
If you'd like, you can check out the Winter's Roar forum at 
Winter's Roar.  I think that if you follow the guide on how to play there, you could probably get on.  It's actually a really good server, very customized.
Well, good luck   
