Error 2006 - I'm gonna freakin' shoot myself

[billhugh]

-Okay, I've tried the permissions thing for MySql (about 10 different ways)
-I've reinstalled my database
-I've patched and unpatched and repatched
-I've reinstalled MySql, EqEmu, and Everquest
-I've typed db.ini,loginserver.ini,miniloginaccount.ini all from scratch
-I've tried several combos of username and passwords
-I've done every possible combination of (localhost, 192.168.x.x, 68.208.x.x, mydomain.xxx.xxx)
-I've tried different version of EqEmu
-And yes, I deleted my.ini from the Windows folder
-I can play on the Eqemu Server

---BUT I CANNOT CREATE MY OWN FREAKING SERVER......

All I get is the stupid #2006 Error when I try to load world.exe.

For the love of everything that is good...please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!

(I also understand that with the newest patch you [technically] cannot create your own server) But I can't even get passed world.exe

THIS IS AN SOS!!!

Thanks in advance for any help.