Error - Timeout Occurred

[ArnMan]

I have followed every forum article, copied and pasted everything over and over several times. From the db.ini to the eqhost.txt files.
I have spent several days doing everything several times.
I have turned off all the firewalls on both computers that are on my home lan.
I have opened up ports 5995 to 9000 on my router for both computers.
I can ping the router from each computer and I can ping each computer from each other.
I originally planned to have a lan setup so I could just go in by myself and play eq.
after all that I had a error timeout occurred.

so I decided to login into the eqemulator servers, still have a timeout occurred.

I have patched eq with everything that is current. I can load up eq and get on the net, and it will not download any more updates.

The lan server I was wanting to run is at 192.168.1.100
and my computer is 192.1.1.101

I would like to use eqemu, but on lan or on eqemulator, all I get is a timeout occurred.

my minilogin, world and bat5zones load up just fine.

What else can I do to fix this?