disconnecting while at char select

[xiix]

i used to have this problem back with 2.1 and 2.2 but i fixed it by reistalling DB and dx 8.1. now it seems with 2.3 , i am having this same problem and reinstalling DB and dx are not having an effect.
i can get to the char select and pick my char and such but after about 30 seconds at the chat select it just disconnects and throws me back to server select screen.

world exe looks like this:

Logged in: Local: eqemu
Sending list of guilds
Unknown opcode: 0x9221 size:4
0000: 09 E8 B5 0D | ....
Client disconnected
Removing client from ip:127.0.0.1 port:3260
1131000 New client from ip: 127.0.0.1 port:3264
Logged in: Local: eqemu
Sending list of guilds
Logged in: Local: eqemu
Sending list of guilds
Client disconnected
Removing client from ip:127.0.0.1 port:3264

i have the latest patch and using eqgame patch me

any help would be appreciated thanx!