Look at your ips, your server machine has a local ip and, if in a network, should have a Lan IP, you might need to change some ips and get it off the local ip. heres my xml;
Code:
<?xml version="1.0">
<server>
<world>
<shortname>classic</shortname>
<longname>'-=Angelox Classic Challenge=-</longname>
<!-- Only specify these two if you really think you need to. (read: You don't) -->
<address>blackwater.dynip.com</address>
<localaddress>localhost</localaddress>
<!-- Loginserver information. Defaults shown -->
<loginserver>
<host>eqemulator.net</host>
<port>5998</port>
<account>********</account>
<password>********</password>
</loginserver>
<!-- Server status. Default is unlocked -->
<!--<locked/>-->
<!-- <unlocked/> -->
<!-- Sets the ip/port for the tcp connections. Both zones and console (if enabled). Defaults are shown -->
<tcp ip="localhost" port="9000" telnet="disable"/>
<!-- Sets the shared key used by zone/launcher to connect to world -->
<key>****************</key>
<!-- Enable and set the port for the HTTP service. Defaults are shown -->
<http port="9080" enabled="false" mimefile="mime.types" />
</world>
<!-- Chatserver (channels) information. Defaults shown -->
<chatserver>
<host>channels.eqemulator.net</host>
<port>7778</port>
</chatserver>
<!-- Mailserver (in-game mail) information. Defaults shown -->
<mailserver>
<host>channels.eqemulator.net</host>
<port>7779</port>
</mailserver>
<zones>
<defaultstatus>0</defaultstatus>
<!-- Sets port range for world to use to auto configure zones -->
<ports low="7000" high="7100"/>
</zones>
<!-- Database configuration, replaces db.ini. Defaults shown -->
<database>
<host>localhost</host>
<port>3306</port>
<username>eq</username>
<password>*******</password>
<db>ax_classic</db>
</database>
<!-- Launcher Configuration -->
<launcher>
<!-- <logprefix>logs/zone-</logprefix> -->
<!-- <logsuffix>.log</logsuffix> -->
<!-- <exe>zone.exe or ./zone</exe> -->
<!-- <timers restart="10000" reterminate="10000"> -->
</launcher>
<!-- File locations. Defaults shown -->
<files>
<!-- <spells>spells_us.txt</spells> -->
<!-- <opcodes>opcodes.conf</opcodes> -->
<!-- <logsettings>log.ini</logsettings> -->
<!-- <eqtime>eqtime.cfg</eqtime> -->
</files>
<!-- Directory locations. Defaults shown -->
<directories>
<!-- <maps>Maps</maps> -->
<!-- <quests>quests</quests> -->
<!-- <plugins>plugins</plugins> -->
</directories>
</server>
blackwater.dynip.com points to my internet ip, and my server host file points the local server to a lan ip.
Th router sends everything to the server machine, or you can just set your server to DMZ (open to interenet), activate software firewall for it.
All this is already been over many times, in these forums, your problem is a common one for people starting out. You get it running faster by searching for your own answers, not having to wait for us to reply.