I uninstalled everything and used the EQEmuServerPack-4.00 and updated it. still i cant seem to get the server to work. as for the wiki guide mentioned all i found was the guide i followed lasttim. 
http://techguynky.com/Documents/Guide.pdf 
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[07.30. - 19:19:02] Starting Log: logs/eqemu_debug_2068.log
[07.30. - 19:19:02] [LAUNCHER__INIT] Loading server configuration..
[07.30. - 19:19:03] [NET__WORLD] WorldConnection connect: Connecting to the server 127.0.0.1:9000 failed: TCPConnection::Connect(): connect() failed. Error: 10061
[07.30. - 19:19:03] [LAUNCHER__ERROR] worldserver.Connect() FAILED! Will retry.
[07.30. - 19:19:03] [LAUNCHER__INIT] Starting main loop...
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<?xml version="1.0">
<server>
        <world>
                <shortname>short name</shortname>
                <longname>long name</longname>
                <!-- Sets the shared key used by zone/launcher to connect to world -->
                <key>some long random string</key>
                <!-- Enable and set the port for the HTTP service. -->
                <http port="9080" enabled="true" mimefile="mime.types" />
        </world>
                <!-- Database configuration, replaces db.ini. -->
        <database>
                <host>localhost</host>
                <port>3306</port>
                <username>root</username>
                <password>*****</password>
                <db>peq</db>
        </database>
</server>